Birthing Destiny

365 Days of Growing Together 
“Under Construction”

Hi WR2W, this is my last post of the year and I wanted to share with you the gift of “Birthing Destiny”.  So many times, we have quick and/or constant thoughts, great ideas, and clear visions, but what do we do with them?  Do we allow them to remain dormant because we are unsure of what to do with them?  Do we not take the necessary steps to prepare to birth them because of lack of resources?  Are we afraid that if we do birth them, there is no turning back, so we must have what it takes to maintain?  For some of us, all of the above are probably true.  Well, I am here to encourage each of us to “take fear head on” and command it gone!  That’s right, in order for us to give birth to our destiny, we must get rid of the blocks of stagnation, fear, and confusion.  There is no need for us to be confused because God knows His plans for our life as He knew the plans for the life of Jesus, from the beginning, through the middle, up until the end, and it is our responsibility to seek Him for clarity and trust Him for a good and hopeful outcome; never did He say the plans would be easy, but He did promise they are not to destroy us (Jeremiah 29:11).    

However, I do understand that many of us have a hard time when it comes to being certain of what God wants us to do with our life while here on Earth.  The answer is He wants us to serve, but the question most of us have is in what capacity.  The majority of us are clear that we are servants of God and we have been called for the purpose of serving and glorifying God, but again, what area have we been chosen.  I get so many questions when it comes to hearing from God and feeling His presence, knowing when it is indeed Him telling us to move on something or stand still in relation to family, career and education, church, and friendship.  For instance, I have had many people tell me, I do not know how to hear from God, when He is speaking, or if what I am feeling is God, therefore, I do not know if I should do this or not.  WR2W, one thing I am certain of is that the Godhead,the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit speaks (bring forth revelation) through His word.  The Master Prophet, Jesus, knew all things and He made sure we were fully equipped to carry on His ministry for the perfecting of the saints, so He gave gifts of apostles, prophets, evangelists, pastors, and teachers to the church to do His work, so again, there is no need for us to be confused (Ephesians 4:11-12). 

Moreover, if you are confused, I rebuke this spirit right now and decree and declare that you will no longer be confused or in denial, but that God will give you clarity on the steps that He has ordered for you to take.  It is so important for us to walk in purpose and fulfill destiny, and this is why, I have answered His call to bring guidance to His people through spiritual life coaching.  If you have been experiencing this feeling and would like to turn it around in 2019, I would love to help you discover your purpose and birth your baby.  The midwife is here to help you deliver, so make your appointment with Birthing Destiny (asktamariaj.com)!  I love each of you, be blessed, be encouraged, and be true!

Signed,
Birthing Destinies


Purposeful Pain (Part 2)

365 Days of Growing Together 
“Under Construction”

Deuteronomy 9: 21 (NLT) – “I took your sin—the calf you had made—and I melted it down in the fire and ground it into fine dust. Then I threw the dust into the stream that flows down the mountain.”

Hi WR2W, did you do the exercise last week?  I hope so!  When we fully surrender to God and give Him a yes, He begins to reveal the purpose of our pain and gives us strategic direction on how to channel the pain to become purposeful, not only for our good, but for the good of the Kingdom.  WR2W, what we must realize is our pain is never about us.  It is always about our assignment!  However, if we are so focused on what we think we are supposed to be doing (that which is causing us the most pain and holding us in bondage), we will always miss what we are meant to be doing (that which gives us purpose and fulfills destiny)!  For the longest time, I struggled with identifying my purpose because I allowed the emotions of my mind and heart to block me from receiving clarity from the Lord on that which He has purposed me to do.  As hard as it was and sometimes still is, I choose God’s will and I totally say yes to Him.  Is it easy to do?  I would have to say no, but if it is easy for you, then congratulations!  However, for most of us that are being honest with ourselves, it is hard.  It was hard for me because I could not differentiate God’s will from my will.  I never saw them as separate and I did not think I was being selfish and wanted only what I wanted.  I did what I was taught to do: made goals, prayed, and did all I could to make it happen.  So, how do you correct over 30 years of being taught a certain way and train this same mind to forget almost everything about this way and accept the method of just saying yes to the Lord and believe He will reveal what we are meant to do?  I had a serious problem with this method because for people like me, this did not work.

First of all, let me be honest, I became so angry when I was told this for the first couple of times because I felt like my feelings were not being considered and all the pain I was feeling had been disregarded.  Some may say I felt like this because I was being self-righteous, but I say I was merely confused!  At that time, I definitely was far from where I am now spiritually so can you possibly imagine how confused I must have been after hearing such a statement?  Now, I understand why I was told this, but at the time, I truly did not understand.  I did not understand that I was dealing with “Purposeful Pain”.  It took me many years to understand that may pain was not unnoticed but being developed for a greater purpose.  Moreover, it took years of praying to God to teach me through the power of His Holy Spirit how to recognize the difference between His will and my will, forfeit my will, and accept only His will.  For the longest, I believed in my heart that it would have been much easier for me to deal with as well as spared me several years, if that above statement of just saying yes to God’s will would have come with an instruction manual on how to do just that, but one thing I have learned while on this spiritual journey, some things cannot be taught by man but only learned from the Holy Spirit.      

WR2W, there is no step by step manual on how to hear the voice of God in relation to the purpose of our pain because God deals with each of us on a case by case basis, therefore, no two people have the exact process.  Nevertheless, if we participated in the above-mentioned exercise of surrendering to God on last week, we learned to let go and no longer hold on to purposeless pain but learned how to move forward with “Purposeful Pain” and be all that God has destined for us to be.  I challenge each of us to continue to motivate one another to burn the graven images of how we see our life, the plans we have made for our life, and all the pain we have endured from trying to make life happen and accept the “Purposeful Pain” in our life and watch God transcend our expectations.  I love each of you, be blessed, be encouraged, and be true!

Signed,
My Pain was for Purpose

Purposeful Pain (Part 1)

365 Days of Growing Together 
“Under Construction”

Deuteronomy 9: 21 (NLT) – “I took your sin—the calf you had made—and I melted it down in the fire and ground it into fine dust. Then I threw the dust into the stream that flows down the mountain.”

Hi WR2W, have you ever wondered why you have endured so much pain in your life?  Why me?  That was the famous question, especially if you felt like you were doing everything God wanted you to do.  You treated people with kindness, tried to help everyone you could, nor did you do anything to cause others harm.  But then there were others who did everything under the sun, and on top of that, they were not nice and caused harm every time you looked around, but these were the people who appeared to be prospering, in good health, and pain did not appear to be what they were suffering.  Well, I know I am not the only person who has ever experienced these types of thoughts.  Many years ago, I would ask God, why me?  Then I would go as far as to compare the type of person I considered myself to be to the type of person I concluded in my mind was not so good and appeared to be reaping blessings.  Blessings, I obviously did not think they deserved based on what I would consider now as a judgmental mindset.  As if I was the One who died on the cross and was granted the power of being the Only Judge and Gift-Giver!

 WR2W, often times, we do not realize we are judging others because we have become so self-righteous.  Many may not agree, but in my opinion our self-righteousness is connected to our level of pain and what we feel we deserve and do not deserve, when in actuality, we need to evaluate ourselves and surrender it all (thoughts, actions, feelings, and will) to God.  Today, I want you to evaluate your level of pain and give it a number from 1 – 10.  Then I want you to take your number, for example, if it is 10, and write 10 things you feel is causing you the most pain and burn the paper when you are done.  As you stand there and watch the paper burn, begin to pray and ask God to uproot the cause and cast the dust of it into the depths of the sea that you shall no longer have remembrance of it.  Once you have completed this part of the process, then I want you to look up to heaven with your arms raised up and opened wide and say God not my will but let Your will be done in my life.  Now, believe in His will for your life and trust Him to bring it to completion! 

 How do you feel?  Do you feel lighter, the same, or nothing at all?  The answer to this question determines the next step of your process.  I want you to write your answer down and think about it.  If you feel lighter, write down why you think so.  If you feel the same, I want you to take a deep breath and try it again, but this time think about all the pain you have felt and/or currently feeling, and exhale as you are letting it go in the fire.  If you feel nothing at all, I want you to begin to pray and ask God to help you embrace the exercise, teach you how to feel Him during the exercise, and reveal the pain which has caused you to become numb.  Then repeat the process.  The purpose of this exercise is to teach us to let go of the calf (the graven image, our will) we have made and say yes to the will of God.  Do I think this is easy, no, but do I think it is worth it?  Absolutely!  I encourage each of us to spend some time doing this exercise as often as needed and spend time with the Lord as we meditate on His word day and night (Psalm 1:2) because in the midst of all our pain, God is developing our purpose and it shall be revealed.  I look forward to next week as we continue to discuss “Purposeful Pain”.  I love each of you, be blessed, be encouraged, and be true!

Signed,
To Be Continued…

My Soul Cries Out

365 Days of Growing Together 
“Under Construction”

Hi WR2W, my prayer for each of us today and every day is that we be faithful, focused, and fruitful.  I pray that throughout our life we have joy even during the difficult times.  During these difficult times is when we need to draw from the well of joy because life can be very tough.  But what I know, in the depths of my soul, is that Jesus is Joy and He is Lord!  In the good times, I call on Jesus.  In the hard times, I call on our Jesus.  He has been so consistent and so faithful.  He has answered my prayers and blessed me with His ways and delivered me out of the miry clay, and all I can say is thank you Father.  I worship our Father because there is no other like Him. I come before His throne with worship when things appear good, bad, and/or ugly because no matter the state, He is Lord!  Throughout my life, I have endured a tremendous amount of pain, but life experiences have forced me to my knees and taught me how to lean and depend totally on our Father and as a result “I took my troubles to the Lord; I cried out to Him, and He answered my prayer” (Psalms 120:1).  If there is no other advice I can give you, I will be sure to recommend crying out from your soul unto our Lord.  When we cry out to God in our distress and pray to Him for help, the bible says our cries reach His ears and He hears us from His sanctuary (Psalms 18:6), but what really gives me courage and helps me to feel safe and at rest is the fact that He does not leave our soul in tears, but He reaches down from heaven and rescues us and draws us out of deep waters and from our powerful enemies (Psalms 18:16-17).

WR2W, as I reflected on crying out from my soul, I could only remember 1 time in my life when I really cried out to the Lord from the depth of my soul for His help and that was 4 months ago when my mom was diagnosed with cancer.  I felt completely helpless.  There have been so many other times when I have gone to the Lord for healing for other family members and friends, but nothing seemed as hard as that time.  In 2013, when the doctors gave up my aunt Lisa, it never crossed my mind that she would not make it, I knew without a shadow of a doubt that she would live a full and healthy life.  When the doctors said 1% chance, I heard the Holy Spirit say 100% chance and that settled it.  But when it came to my mom, I did not hear all is well and I was scared.  The day my mom took the biopsy, I was in the office with her watching the surgeon and I began to ask Him the questions I heard the Holy Spirit utter to me.  I began to feel unsettled because I knew it was cancer and I heard Him say move her immediately.  That same day when we left the doctor’s office and I was driving us home, I heard the Holy Spirit say, sarcoma.  This was amazing and nerve-racking at the same time.  Amazing because He was preparing me and nerve-racking because I did not want this to be true.  However, I guess my face told when I heard the voice of God and/or maybe it was when my mood suddenly became somber because my mom asked me what was wrong.  I cannot remember the exact words I told her, but I remember looking at her and saying no matter what the results say we know that God is in full control and she was alright.  She looked at me and said, she was not worried because she did not have cancer.  Although, I think at that moment, she knew I heard something because I was too quiet, her soul was crying out to the Lord and she knew He heard her cry and she remained faithful and unmovable.

WR2W, I did not respond to my mom’s question of what was wrong because at that moment, I did not know what to say.  My emotions took over and my mind was not at rest.  I begin to google on my phone the word sarcoma.  It was a long ride home for me because I wanted to be strong for my mom and appear as if I was unbothered.  I wanted to prepare my mother for what she was about to hear so before we returned the next week for the results, I told her what I heard the Holy Spirit say and she said ok, but I don’t have cancer.  Again, she had cried out to the Lord and He had answered her, so it was no need to worry and accept what she did not have.  Needless to say, I learned so much from my mom, a woman of strong faith.  So, we continued with the process and the following week, we went for the results, and were prepared to hear the words cancer and sarcoma, and this was exactly what we heard.  We were given a paper that said leiomyosarcoma and the size of the tumor, which was really small, but learned later that it was large for the area it was located.  However, to make a lengthy story short, my journey of crying out to the Lord from the depths of my soul and trusting Him like never before began.  My mom was alright and emotionally was doing far better than me.  Early the next morning after receiving the results, it had to be about 3 or 4 AM, I cried from the depths of my soul and asked the Lord to heal my mom and extend her years.  I remember saying Lord for her faithfulness, remove this unclean spirit from my mother’s body and send it to a barren land that it shall never rise against her again and extend her years upon this Earth that she may complete Your work.  I cried so much I became weak and quiet.  The next day, Bishop Anderson stop by to see me and I began to cry again and shared with Him what I heard the Holy Spirit say to me.  And he began to pour into me and bring me into a deeper understanding of the Holy Spirit and the revelation in which He gives.

WR2W, I share with you all of this to let you know that the Holy Spirit reveals to us so we can go into prayer with revelation on what exactly to come against.  It is for us to wage war through the power of the Holy Spirit against the Satanic attacks of the enemy.  It was not until I cried out from my soul, that I entered into a greater dimension of knowledge and understanding.  Something happened to me that morning that is unexplainable.  I felt a feeling like never before and became completely vulnerable before the Lord.  I was stripped of pride, and the walls came down.  I was completely helpless and realized that this was a job only for Jesus and my natural intellect and medical knowledge was not going to get me through this one.  I don’t care how many classes I took in college, graduate school, and/or medical school, none of them gave me peace and if anything, they made me more nervous because naturally I knew that this cancer was a beast.  It was only the way of the Holy Spirit that pulled me through this one and recognizing the voice of God that gave me peace and assurance that all was indeed well!  My Sisters, I encourage each of us to cry out to Lord and cast all our cares on Him because He cares for us (1 Peter 5:7) and will answer our prayers.  I love each of you, be blessed, be encouraged, and be true!

Signed,
A Continual Cry from My Soul

Game Changer

365 Days of Growing Together 
“Under Construction”

Hi WR2W, Friday morning I woke up thinking about that interception Drew threw in the final minutes of the game, we (the Saints) were almost down to the two-minute warning, and Drew threw his first and only interception of the game.  Now, this was a “Game Changer”!  Before this play, I am sure Sean, the players, and the fans still saw hope.  Hope that Drew could throw the ball down the field possibly to Thomas or one of the other players to run the ball into the end zone for the winning touchdown.  A repeat of what was done several times throughout the season, but no, not this time!  This time, we needed a “Game Changer” moment!  A moment when defensive pressure could not shake us, and we recognized that what use to work, would not work this time.  We needed to bring the element of surprise, but when we come unprepared to play like #1 seed, the element of surprise can never be implemented and losing is the end result.  But every loss is not a bad thing.  Many times, in our life, God will allow us to lose the war to win the battle.  The loss is to teach us to always come ready to play like the #1 seed and never take any moment for granted.  A loss prepares us for a greater comeback while granting us a humbling experience that opens our eyes to see what we missed the first time and use it to execute with greater skill and force every other time.  So, let us thank God for the losses because He is only preparing us to be a mighty “Game Changer” and setting us up for the big win!

Listen, on Thursday night, the Cowboys did just that, they came waging war and played as if they were the #1 seed.  The defense was off the chain and no matter the team’s current record, they played as if they were playing in the Super Bowl as the #1 seed.  We can learn something from the Cowboys, and that is to saddle up and take the horse for the best ride of his life!  It does not matter who may have counted us out based on our past or current record, we should always come prepared and ready to take out our opponent (Satan, the enemy).  Do you understand that the Cowboys spent countless hours studying the strategy of their opponent and practicing every play strategically as if they were playing the Saints in the real game?  HINT: we must take this approach in life.  The Cowboys set out to stop their biggest threat, Drew Brees, the greatest quarter back in the NFL and guess what, they did just that but not without strategy and practice.  We must stop saying we want to win if we are not doing anything in our life to prepare to win.  This is insanity and stupidity!

WR2W, if we want to be champs and play in the Super Bowl of life, meaning accomplish our goals and became a “Game Changer” we have to study our opponent’s strategy and develop a plan to wage war and the only way we can be successful at defeating the enemy is by studying the word of God.  One of my favorite game changers in the bible is Esther.  Esther was a bad woman!  She was wise and very strategic.  She did not make a move without consultation and sticking to the plan.  She was not hasty nor was she shaken under pressure.  She remembered all she was taught and shared only what needed to be shared at the appropriate time and because she came prepared to play, she not only won the game, but she changed the game!  In changing the game, she saved her family and a nation of people, made history, and prepared the way for the Kings of Kings!  Esther was a “Game Changer” because she had a prayer life and a plan!  Moreover, she understood the importance and power of praying with those in agreement.  My sisters, this type of praying will move mountains, I have seen it happen.  The bible enlightens us in Esther 4:16 (NLT) that Esther sent word to Mordecai to “Go and gather together all the Jews of Susa and fast for me.  Do not eat or drink for three days, night or day.  My maids and I will do the same.  And then, though it is against the law, I will go in to see the king.  If I must die, I must die.” This indicates that Esther was not operating in fear because she had spent time with God and received revelation on strategy and her purpose and she was prepared for whatever may have come her way because she trusted God.  WR2W, the hope that many may have seen on the field Thursday night before the untimely interception because of the trust in the skill of Sean Payton and Drew Brees to get us the win when we knew it was over, is the same enthusiastic approach we must take in coming to know Jesus when we feel like life is over.  We need to surrender to the will of God and allow Him, the only Hope, to give us strategy to become a “Game Changer” and make a difference in and for His Kingdom.  Then and only then will “The Saints Go Marching In” and win the Super Bowl of Life.  I love each of you, be blessed, be encouraged, and be true!

Signed,
Changing the Game